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I remember being a hopeless romantic who believed ‘love conquers all’ and love was the destination to my journey called life. Love was always the ultimate goal, and the necessity too. Be it that special someone, or family, or friends- love was too big to let anything else come in the way. I was so far from reality, right? I had also been told a few times that I live in a dreamland, and life is not what I think it is. To use exact words, it was called living in a bubble. And eventually, the bubble did break.

I feel very differently now. I don't believe as much, I don't have the same blind faith, I try to keep myself at a safe distance from hurt, and I prepare myself for the worst. Maybe that's what growing up does to you. It shows you the more real but ugly side of love. 

But, we ourselves are a part of the problem here. We romanticize love so much, we make it seem so perfect. And we just forget that the lovers are humans- imperfect creatures, stitched together with flaws. So, how can love stay away from their imperfections? I think we do that because it makes us feel good. Love has been said to have a similar effect like drugs on our brain, and we keep feeding our feelings until one day we realize we have a problem. We ourselves set love up for failure by doing this. We set the bar too high and then we turn bitter when things turn out differently. 
Shouldn’t we be getting better, instead of bitter? 

Yes, love is beautiful. It makes the journey worthwhile. It brings so much joy and happiness. But, don't lose yourself in loving someone- because true love won't do that to you. It's okay to use your mind in love, because that's gonna protect your heart. Real love is not easy. Unlike the movie Love actually, it isn't all sunshine and smiles, it's more like a sine wave- for all the good days, there are bad days too. Just trust your instinct- it's usually right in guiding you. You'll know when the love is true and worth all the effort.
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  1. KateMonday, April 13, 2015 12:07:00 PM

    Beautifully written and well-said. Today is my second wedding anniversary, and I'm also keeping in mind that love isn't always pretty. Sometimes it's rough and tough and you have to just roll with it. But that's what makes it beautiful and worth the while.

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  2. Em xxMonday, April 13, 2015 4:10:00 PM

    Such a lovely post. I agree with you, love is not perfect and will never be, but still, love is beautiful and sometimes it's worth the effort :)
    http://emmxx.blogspot.com/

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  3. Valerie DarlingMonday, April 13, 2015 4:37:00 PM

    So true. I think it takes a while to discover what love really is. I was with a guy who I thought I loved but it was too much work. Love is work but there are things that should be easy.

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  4. Angela TolsmaMonday, April 13, 2015 8:58:00 PM

    The irony in romance being too romanticized. I love the movie Love Actually but at the end of the day love is allot of work. lovely post

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  5. DTMonday, April 13, 2015 9:43:00 PM

    Thanks Angela :) Yes, it is a lot of work, but it is rewarding too in many ways.

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  6. DTMonday, April 13, 2015 9:43:00 PM

    Yes, agree totally! If it's all work, it can't be fun.

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  7. DTMonday, April 13, 2015 9:44:00 PM

    Happy anniversary, Kate! Wish you many years full of love <3

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  8. DTMonday, April 13, 2015 9:44:00 PM

    Yes, it is. Thanks Em :)

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  9. Mithila MenezesMonday, April 13, 2015 11:53:00 PM

    I have been feeling this way since some time now.. and it really sucks when you romanticize love.. And fairytales add more fuel to the fire!

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  10. DTTuesday, April 14, 2015 9:03:00 AM

    Yes, absolutely. No help at all!

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  11. Donna MansourSunday, April 19, 2015 1:04:00 PM

    Lovely post, I completely agree! Love is beautiful and so worth the while but definitely over-romanticised within society which can cause a lot of angst for some people!

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  12. Lori HillSunday, April 19, 2015 4:29:00 PM

    Spot on, this is so true!

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  13. DTSunday, April 19, 2015 11:15:00 PM

    Thanks for stopping by, Lori! :)

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  14. DTSunday, April 19, 2015 11:15:00 PM

    Thanks Donna :)

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  15. Holly HousewifeTuesday, April 28, 2015 12:55:00 PM

    I just recently watched love actually and I was shocked, this is suppose to be such a great movie??!?!??! Am I alone?? I thought it was weird and sad lol
    Amen sister! I love and hate my husband at the same time some days, it's a roller coaster!

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  16. DTWednesday, April 29, 2015 10:52:00 AM

    I agree.. there was nothing special in that movie. Just below average rom-com

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