Imagine a world where everything remained unchanged. That would mean no age, no time, no movement and of course no development. If you ask me, I see no difference between death and remaining static.
When was the last time you did something new?
How long have you been sticking to a routine and disregarded the idea of doing something new for a change? Is any of your bad habits causing you pain?
You realize you have to change but simply can't bring yourself to do it?
Do you fear changing will jeopardize your present circumstances?
I’m sure many of you will be able to relate to these questions.
The fact that you're reading this means you want to take the steps and turn your life around. You must be aware how important change is to our survival.
Change is mandatory.
Change is constant.
Change is inevitable.
Change is everywhere and present in the most minute of things.
It's happening to you as you read this. So, why do we shy away from something so important? Why do we continuously resist change like it will do us more harm than good?
Changing oneself is often linked with negative traits such as arrogance, selfishness and pride. You must have noticed people sarcastically telling you,
"Hey, you've changed, you are different” or “you don't know me anymore?"
Change entails developing positive attitudes such like self confidence, loving oneself, doing what matters most to you, avoiding people pleasing and letting go of those who bring you down.
As a matter of fact, some do not approve of such changes as they look at your personal change in a negative manner.
As long as the change you undertake adds value to your life and those around you, avoid worrying what others think about you.
If you're NOT content with who you are and wish to change, I don't see a problem with that. Be true to yourself, do what you must and live the life you want.
Before I go any further, I'm happy to announce this is my first guest post, made possible thanks to Here I Scribble who is hosting Transient Tuesdays as a weekly feature on her blog. The theme is 'CHANGE'.
Having gone through massive changes personally and professionally over the past few years, I couldn't think of anything better to share than my thoughts on how to embrace change.
Let's dive right in. Shall we?
1. Let go of your "know it all attitude"
You need to be honest with yourself on this one.
Do you always act like you know it all, even if in your heart of hearts you are aware you don’t know what you think you know?
Well, you're standing as an obstacle in your own way. When you believe you know everything. You stop learning. You resist change because you don't believe you need to change.
Let's imagine you're a manager of a recruitment company. You have a subordinate who points out loop holes in the way you coordinate jobs and suggests practical ways to fix this issue. You realize, your colleague’s suggestions make sense. But your ‘know it all’ attitude kicks in and you resist considering the suggestions. Who are you kidding here?
Let go of your ego. The day you think you know, is the day you should know you know nothing at all.
2. Take Baby steps
Has it hit home that you need to change a few things for your sake and for the sake of others? Does it feel overwhelming? It will feel so; if you're looking to change everything at one go. Nothing can be done properly if you rush. Take it slowly and steadily. Minor and major changes cannot happen in the blink of an eye. You need to be patient. Take small steps and make every step count. At the same time, try not to compare your progress towards change, with that of others or let anybody else influence your decision to make a change. You have the sole right to decide the direction you wish to take to reach your destination.
3. Overcome your fear
What if I told 5 years from now, you'll find yourself exactly where you are now?
Would you approve of that? I doubt it.
Then why fear? I agree that change can be scary. But is it scarier than staying stuck, frozen in time? No.
Resisting change simply because we are scared is such a waste of our precious lives. Try not to complicate things by over analyzing what lies ahead. Sometimes we just have to take the plunge. Remind ourselves that our fear is temporary, but the result of whatever it is we want to change will be long lasting and leave us with a sense of self-satisfaction.
4. Don't be disheartened
You cannot be in control of all that happens to you. Making changes in one's life means, learning is taking place and sometimes mistakes are unavoidable. That may result in us getting knocked down a few times. Especially, if the change you want to make affects major areas of your life including people around you. Although, feeling disheartened at first is normal, try not to let that feeling stop you from doing what's best for you. Don't let disappointments seep into the nooks and crannies of your life. Step above it and take your next step towards change with enthusiasm, believing in yourself.
5. Ask for support
Whether it is change on a personal or professional level, having somebody to support you can make a world of difference. Imagine you're trying to stop procrastinating. What better way to do so than to have the support of a near and dear one to give you a push from time to time and help you stay on track? If you think you might need a helping hand, don't be ashamed or intimidated to ask for it. There are plenty of wonderful people out there who would be willing to help you. Just ASK!
6. Shut the door on old bad habits
As the idiom goes 'old habits die hard'. Unless you ditch those old bad habits that are holding you back, you cannot make place for habits that could potentially help you unleash the power within. Instead of forcing yourself to get rid of bad habits, substitute it with something you like. Find something you're passionate about. Something, you believe can help you stay away from those unwanted habits. Think hard and you'll soon find a new habit that will help you change and be a better version of yourself.
7. It’s getting late
I am skeptical about the cliché "It's never too late", that's why I live life like there's no tomorrow. It's never too late, is overused and often makes people laze away. Yes, there are certain situations where it encourages us. But most often, I come across people giving themselves this false assurance they still have time and it makes them less productive.
Stop whiling away precious time. The next hour isn't guaranteed. How can you trust the next few days, weeks, months or years? If you want to change you have to do it now.
I prefer thinking I have no time. It forces me to take action towards making my dreams come true. No excuses whatsoever.
8. Get ready to feel uncomfortable
Feeling uncomfortable and awkward from time to time is the price you pay when you adopt change. You will often find yourself in uncertain situations totally out of your comfort zone. You will have to literally push yourself to attempt the unknown. But don't let that dull down your will to change. Eventually you will get used to that uncomfortable feeling and work through your commitment to change your life. Are you ready?
9. Believe the best is yet to come
The change you make in your life today could possibly lead you somewhere you never expected to find yourself in. I literally changed 101 things about myself. I am now in a better position to do things I never thought possible.
Believe in yourself and believe good things are coming your way. As a fan of the ‘Law of Attraction’, I must add that you attract what you think. Try being optimistic and strongly expect good things to happen. Be positive!
10. Positive Affirmations
Affirmations have a way of encouraging us and rewiring our thought process. You can change the course of your life by writing down statements in relation to your goals and desires. Manifest your thoughts. Let's say, "I am successful", is your positive affirmation of the day. If you repeatedly tell yourself you are successful, while of course working towards it, your subconscious mind accepts it as the truth and attracts similar situations into your life.
Try the following affirmations:-
Change empowers me.
Change makes my life interesting.
Change makes me feel alert and alive.
I attract all I want when I adopt positive changes.
The changes I bring in my life make me feel awesome.
I welcome change with more confidence and positivity.
It’s your turn. I leave it up to you to frame as many affirmations as you want, to help yourself embrace change. You may want to share a few with us or tell us how you embrace change. Looking forward to your comments!
Hema Unnoop is a happy wife, entrepreneur and motivational blogger at Cre8PositiveLife. She believes in being positive while being true to oneself. She aims to inspire and empower others create a positive life through her posts on happiness, courage, dreams, self development, success and all things positive.
A big thanks to this very positive girl, for joining us in Transient Tuesdays! Next week, on Transient Tuesdays, we have Cindy. Stay tuned to read more, scribblers!
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