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Guest Blogger: Jennifer


Over the past year, my life has changed dramatically. I went from living with my boyfriend in a dead end job and miserable. To living on my own, with a new boyfriend, at a new job, and very happy with life. At first when I realized the changes that I had to make, I thought there was no way I could ever make anything happen and that I might just be stuck in this miserable life I had been living for so long. 

Changing your life and taking risks and chances is probably the hardest thing anyone will ever do in life. Especially removing yourself from your comfort zone. I would say the taking the leap and breaking up with my ex AND moving out of my house, was not only the right thing to do, but very liberating in showing how independent I could be but also I am OK on my own. That I didn't/don't need anyone to dictate my life anymore and that the decision that I make are for me and my life and not having to worry about anyone else's. 

Taking a look back on that whole mess I went through now, I really wonder how I had the guts to do what I did. Most people I know, would just stick it out and deal with the situation because it's just easier to cheat and not get caught then to change your life because and location and situation because you're unhappy. Not that he was a horrible person or that I was totally miserable all of the time, but he wasn't the right person for me and I am glad that I had enough courage to walk away from the situation before it was too late and I ended up married to a man who was the wrong person for me. 




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