Last night i was chatting with my roommate like everyday. She is a big chatterbox. The moment she comes back from work, she goes on and on about her day, her work, her colleagues, her good and bad experiences.. I'm usually the listener. Yesterday, while talking she said that she needs to amend her attitude. according to her, she spoils her relations with people because of others. Sharing an experience, she told me how she stopped talking to a person after her friends had a conflict with him. But few days later they all mingled up again, while she still is not talking to that person. That took me into a flashback, and made me think.. I recalled how i used to be with only those few people whom i considered my friends. I was never judgemental about anybody. Whenever any of my so-called friends gave any opinion about someone, i just believed them blindly and always stood up by them. They would call me the best friend etc. But in the rough patches none of them stood up by me, they prefered to be good, the sweet friendly ones! That was indeed one of the biggest mistakes of life, which will always stay up on the list. U think this is friendship? It just hurts to see that people aren't friends anymore, they are being just politically correct.. Maybe its just that i'm out of place in this mean world, I need to work a lot that way.
no words...but,everything happens for smthing gud..life teach us diffrent lessons..
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thank you for your comment and for sharing your experience. It does take a lot of courage to walk away from "friends". Keeping a friendship that hurts you is just not worth it, and I guess it's not a real friendship either.
ReplyDeletehm..But sometimes it is good to hear other's opinion also.It depends on situation,people who give the opinion, their trustworthiness etc.
ReplyDeleteI can't answer your poll. I think it depends on what you're busy with! If you're busy with friends, that's good. If you're so busy you can't spend time with friends, that's bad.
ReplyDeleteUsually when one of my friends says they don't like someone, I don't start treating that person differently. I form my own opinion (meanwhile, keeping what my friend said on my mind). If someone didn't wrong me, I don't feel like it is fair to judge them for something they did to someone else. It has nothing to do with me.
At the same time, some things can't be ignored, like if the guy raped my friend, or if he's on murder watch. That DOES bother me, and they deserve to know so.
It's good to stand by best friends when someone has done something very wrong to them. I wouldn't dislike someone just because my friend did for some random reason though... there are 2 sides to every story and always draw your own conclusions about people, don't let friends do it for you.... especially friends who don't stand up for you always. It sounds like you are a great friend! Those girls are lucky.
ReplyDeletedont jst stop talking 2 a person jst becoz...your frnd did it......use your brain......judge a person acc to u....than take a decision.....support only if u think someone is correct.....even if he/she is your bestfrnd.........
ReplyDeleteits definitely good to stand by best friends. if anyone has every caused a good friend of mine pain i cant find it in my heart to go outo f my way for that person. if its something trivial and small i usually dont let it affect me. everyone has their ups and their downs. happy friday love!
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